It's finally hot. I took the kids swimming this morning. Well, the girls anyway. Nathan got in trouble (pooped in his underwear) so he got to stay home with dad. Boy was he sad. We had the pool all to ourselves for about 20 minutes. Heaven! I'm insecure in my swim suit. Can't think of a time that I haven't been really. Kinda dumb.
I've spent the day cleaning. You would never know it. I'm ornery today. Actually, just this afternoon. Aaron isn't home for dinner again tonight. He may never know just what an important thing he is missing. I've tried and tried to express to him just how important his presence is. I don't think he gets it. I've married a hard worker. I'm grateful, but it is not without a great cost and sometimes I don't think it's worth it. I wish he wanted to be home more, to be with us more. There is always something to do, something to take him away, even when he's home. Ah, I'll stop complaining.
I love my kids. They drive me crazy though. Nathan tries my patience, but Hannah has been trying me lately too. I'm surrounded by women that appear to be the "perfect" mom, "perfect" wife, and have the "perfect" life. I hate the blogging world. I'm addicted to the blogging world. Sometimes I wish I lived far out in the country, on a little piece of land, with no Internet, no cell phones, and just the land to work on. Then my husband could be a cowboy and work the land and our kids would work along with him. I think I'd have a dozen kids if that were my life. I think I would enjoy a dozen kids if that were my life. Alas, it is not my life. I do have a pretty good life right where I'm at, it's just sometimes I get so down with the little things that aren't so great. I'm starting to ramble now. I have a meeting in a few minutes. Something to take my mind off of me. Hallelujah!
Tuesday, June 21, 2011
Monday, June 13, 2011
10:11 pm
I haven't showered in two days. This is not typical for the record. It is typical however, to go every other day. Not proud of this. I just really hate to get ready each day. Poor Aaron. Speaking of Aaron, we talked. Things are better. He listened really well. I said some not so nice things and he still listened and was nice to me. Marriage will always be something to work for, work at, work together to improve. Very very grateful to be married to a man who is willing to work for it.
Hannah came out of her room tonight (9:45ish) and was sobbing. I quickly went to see what was wrong. Ok, I need to back track. Last week was her piano recital and her teacher encouraged all of us families to participate in a donation for a women and children's shelter. Of course, I didn't prepare to take anything until the night before. I was scrambling to find things we might donate. Fortunately I had some crayons, folders, binders (all needed) that I bought last year before school started. I quickly grabbed those. The foundation also needed slightly used children's books and stuffed animals. Well.....I looked through the children's books and took 5 that I didn't think would be missed, and one little stuffed bear that hadn't been played with in months. The problem is, I didn't ask Hannah and I really should have. (lesson learned) She was sobbing about one of those books she saw me give away, saying it was her most special book ever and helped her to not have bad dreams. We hadn't read that book in a year I swear! Then she proclaimed that the bear I gave was really special to her too. Bah! think quick Melissa, think quick. "But sweetheart, those things went to children who have nothing. Doesn't that make you so happy to give someone something who has nothing when you have so much?" It didn't work. She cried even harder and asked me if I would give her away too? What??? No! No! Ok, so I need to make sure never to do this again. Always include my children in deciding what they will donate. I cradled Hannah for sometime. Told her many things I absolutely love about her. Told her what a special girl she is and most importantly, promised I would NEVER take any of her books, toys, stuffed animals without talking with her first. She is now sound asleep. Phew!
Hannah came out of her room tonight (9:45ish) and was sobbing. I quickly went to see what was wrong. Ok, I need to back track. Last week was her piano recital and her teacher encouraged all of us families to participate in a donation for a women and children's shelter. Of course, I didn't prepare to take anything until the night before. I was scrambling to find things we might donate. Fortunately I had some crayons, folders, binders (all needed) that I bought last year before school started. I quickly grabbed those. The foundation also needed slightly used children's books and stuffed animals. Well.....I looked through the children's books and took 5 that I didn't think would be missed, and one little stuffed bear that hadn't been played with in months. The problem is, I didn't ask Hannah and I really should have. (lesson learned) She was sobbing about one of those books she saw me give away, saying it was her most special book ever and helped her to not have bad dreams. We hadn't read that book in a year I swear! Then she proclaimed that the bear I gave was really special to her too. Bah! think quick Melissa, think quick. "But sweetheart, those things went to children who have nothing. Doesn't that make you so happy to give someone something who has nothing when you have so much?" It didn't work. She cried even harder and asked me if I would give her away too? What??? No! No! Ok, so I need to make sure never to do this again. Always include my children in deciding what they will donate. I cradled Hannah for sometime. Told her many things I absolutely love about her. Told her what a special girl she is and most importantly, promised I would NEVER take any of her books, toys, stuffed animals without talking with her first. She is now sound asleep. Phew!
Wednesday, June 8, 2011
A Fresh Start
This blog is meant for me to just write what I'm feeling. It's not for show. It's just for me. The blogging world is one that has easily gotten me down. It also lifts and inspires at times. I'm officially addicted.
Since this is a place just for me, I'm here to say I'm in a funk. Down in the dumps. Feeling ungrateful. Feeling ashamed. The shame is the worst part. I have much....MUCH to be grateful for. The most important being, three people who call me 'mom'. Although they contribute probably the most to my feelings of angst, they are also my greatest blessings and my greatest joys. They have three very strong personalities. They are strong willed. They are slightly headstrong. I think I get the credit for that. Their father can also take some of that glory as well. We are not connecting right now. We are off right now. It's been nearly eight years since we made that marriage covenant. There's been lots of happiness in those almost eight years. There's also been our fair share of arguments, disagreements, and plenty of stubbornness. No one, and I mean no one, can make me more upset, more frustrated, and even more hurt than him. I'm pretty sure that goes both ways. There are times that I feel trapped in my life. How did I get here? Sometimes I feel Satan's influence so strongly. He doesn't want me to be happy. He wants my marriage to fail. He wants me to continue to find fault with my husband. There is no one I can talk to. I try turning to God. I won't stop, but I feel alone there too. I know He's there, but I also know that I have to work in order to feel his influence and power in my life.
Anyway, that's probably enough for a first post. I hope this isn't just an outlet for my woes. There are a lot of good days too.
Since this is a place just for me, I'm here to say I'm in a funk. Down in the dumps. Feeling ungrateful. Feeling ashamed. The shame is the worst part. I have much....MUCH to be grateful for. The most important being, three people who call me 'mom'. Although they contribute probably the most to my feelings of angst, they are also my greatest blessings and my greatest joys. They have three very strong personalities. They are strong willed. They are slightly headstrong. I think I get the credit for that. Their father can also take some of that glory as well. We are not connecting right now. We are off right now. It's been nearly eight years since we made that marriage covenant. There's been lots of happiness in those almost eight years. There's also been our fair share of arguments, disagreements, and plenty of stubbornness. No one, and I mean no one, can make me more upset, more frustrated, and even more hurt than him. I'm pretty sure that goes both ways. There are times that I feel trapped in my life. How did I get here? Sometimes I feel Satan's influence so strongly. He doesn't want me to be happy. He wants my marriage to fail. He wants me to continue to find fault with my husband. There is no one I can talk to. I try turning to God. I won't stop, but I feel alone there too. I know He's there, but I also know that I have to work in order to feel his influence and power in my life.
Anyway, that's probably enough for a first post. I hope this isn't just an outlet for my woes. There are a lot of good days too.
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